UPDATE: It is real, and you can order it here for $75. I will not be ordering it.
This is a Kathleen Hanna quote from this New Yorker profile of Kim Gordon. We also find out that KG loves TV and Tim Riggins. My heart.
This week I’m feeling a little high-horsey over the recent subscription I purchased to YogaGlo, an amazing service that delivers hundreds of classes in a variety of styles and lengths to your computer or Roku or AppleTV or whatever for $18 a month. I have done at least 30 minutes of yoga every day since last Saturday. I rule.
Beauty and fellow Roku owner Jeanne Brooks told me about it a few weeks ago, so I signed up for the free two-week trial. I’m usually going for a 45-60 minute practice with equal parts sun salutations and stretchin’ out my bod. Here are some of their offerings that deliver what I want:
Some of the class names, especially the ones that have to do with periods, are hilarious:
I used to be really good about going to yoga classes at a studio, but the expense adds up and it’s hard to carve out two hours to get there, take the class, and get home. YogaGlo means I never have to leave my home, which is my favorite thing of anything, especially on the weekdays. ENDORSED!
Yesterday I was in a RAGE over this article by journalist Richard Dorment in Esquire. I mean, of course; at first read, it’s a man snidely attempting to take down the idea that women have to fight harder than men to make it to the top AND balance work and family. Shut up.
I went home and reread the Anne-Marie Slaughter article he aims to discredit, “Why Women Still Can’t Have it All,” to try and figure out exactly why I was feeling so angry. I read this take on the issue in The Cut by Kurt Soller. And I’m with you, Kurt, and I’m even with Richard Dorment on a few things, too. Yes, men are now more than ever involved in their family lives, and men work hard and make sacrifices, too. Some feel stigmatized by choices of fathers’ past. I get it. But here’s where he misses the mark, both in his criticism of Slaughter (“… it’s worth keeping in mind that this comes from a person whose husband, by her own admission, sacrificed much in his own academic career to do the heavy lifting with their children, all so she could pursue her dream job and then complain about it, bitterly, in the pages of a national magazine.”) and his whining about the current dialogue on this issue.
In rereading Slaughter’s article, I didn’t get the impression that she was in any way discounting the modern man’s growing commitment to his family. She mentions Chris Christie, her own husband, and Deputy Secretary of State James Steinberg. She wants a world where work-life balance is in place for both men AND women, for mothers AND fathers! She’s not even calling it “having it all” anymore! SO FIRST, WHY ARE WE STILL TALKING ABOUT THIS? We don’t need yet ANOTHER article talking about how hard it is for upper-class, educated people to balance their work and family life. Anne-Marie Slaughter ALREADY COVERED IT.
Slaughter isn’t making excuses for her upbringing or how she got where she is - she is fortunate, which she acknowledges. It is women like her who get PhDs and professorships, who give speeches at colleges and advise lawmakers. She is wondering HOW we can get more women like her into positions of power to change the state of things for women who aren’t in her demographic or salary bracket. Dorment doesn’t even acknowledge his social or economic status, and even uses Sheryl Sandberg’s husband as an example of a hardworking husband.
“We’ll create a better society in the process, for all women. We may need to put a woman in the White House before we’re able to change the conditions of the women working at Walmart. But when we do, we will stop talking about whether women can have it all. We will properly focus on how we can help all Americans (emphasis added) have healthy, happy, productive lives, valuing the people they love as much as the success they seek,” Slaughter wrote.
Dorment also fails to acknowledge that many of us women who are coming up in the world today, who are fighting to make it to any higher level, still saw our grandmothers wait on our grandfathers and have “daddy issues” brought on by absent or abusive fathers. The way it always has been, traditionally, is still very much a part of our lives.
He seems to forget that men are already IN power. They still naturally make more money than women do, without even trying, without even fighting for it. Lawmakers (a large majority of whom are male, duh) are already yielding to the gun lobby and wielding control over womens’ bodies and preventing Medicaid expansion to the poorest Americans, who more than likely have families with children. Acknowledge this before you compare our struggles. “He is so blind to the subtleties of gender politics,” my good bud Jen Girdish said.
Other things that made me go FUCK YOU, DUDE:
Well, great; now I’m exhausted, and this whole definition of “having it all” doesn’t even apply to me because I do not want to have children. Sigh. Bottom line: Dudes, no more articles about this kind of thing. Bring us home, Tom Petty: